"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt
I re-pinned this quote on Pinterest the other day and got some immediate, great responses to it which in turn, has made me ponder more about its meaning and why it has such an impact on so many people. I think it's fair to say that most of us have succumbed to the perils of comparing ourselves to other people - it's hard not to, it's a natural human reaction! I come across a lot of people whose biggest struggle has been with where they are in their lives currently - that they had a vision of where and who they would be at a certain age and are nowhere near reaching their dreams as that age creeps closer. And then they compare themselves to other people of the same age or younger and how everyone else is succeeding in their own way, even though everyone started at the same place. And success can come in the form of anything: someone getting married, someone starting a family, someone getting a promotion, someone moving to France, someone starting a business, someone going to grad school, etc.
We find something good in other people and want what they have, but we fail to look at our own personal successes and be happy with ourselves and where we are. This is something that will always be a constant struggle, and I think that is why this quote hits home to so many people. We know that we shouldn't compare ourselves to others because we know it will make us unhappy, and yet we do. In order to be happier with ourselves, we need to constantly remind ourselves that we are in control of our happiness. We are where and who we are because of the choices we have made and our future depends on the choices we will make. If you look at other people and want what they have, let them inspire you. Continue to set goals for yourself, share in the happiness of others, acknowledge even the smallest personal successes in your everyday lives, and never stop dreaming!
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